Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Beach Birthdays!

This year Chase and I decided that instead of throwing birthday parties for the kids we would celebrate by taking trips and exploring more of this amazing country!  Spencer and Chase's birthdays just happen to be four days apart so we decided to celebrate their 3rd and 30th this year at the beach! About seven hours from Pretoria is the popular beach town of Durban, outside of Durban along he coast are several other smaller beach towns that are also popular places to stay. Our good friends Chuck and Mandy came along with us on the trip and we found a beach front house in an area called Umdloti that fit us all! The boys do great on car rides and so the journey there was easy. It was much like driving through Kansas to Denver with a few Mountains in the mix.
About an hour outside of Durban is an area called The Meander, which is full of rolling hills and lots of small artisan shops. It's a great place to stop if you have time to look for pottery, artwork, or as Chase found out for us wind chimes. We stopped at a shop on the side of a small mountain known for their hand made wind chimes. The shop is about the size of a large two car garage and you can hear the chimes ringing as you drive up. It's owned by the nicest gentleman who can tell you all about each chime and the sounds they make. When I went to pay I found they do not accept credit cards and he simply said that "it's alright, because people are in too big a rush these days", and he wrote me an invoice to pay when I got back to pretoria. I told him that was very trusting, but thanked him for being so accommodating. 
The Meander is also known for the famous Nelson Mandela capture site, the place in which he was captured before serving his 27 years in prison. Now the site is home to a beautiful sculpture that was put up at the 50th anniversary of his capture. The sculpture is made of 50 steal poles and set at the end of a brick path that symbolizes the "long walk to freedom". Along the path 30 meters from the sculpture you can stop and see the image of Nelson Mandela's head. I thought this sculpture was really impressive it took a lot of careful planning and thought to make it fit together so well. 

 






Once we got to our house it was nothing but relaxation and beach time! Chase and Chuck got to play a round of golf while Mandy and I spent time on the beach with the kids. We were only there for two full days, so it was a lot of sand and good food. I ordered a cake from the local coffee shop to take with us and the first night there we ate at a seaside restaurant and sang happy birthday to the boys!  The house was perfect it was situated on the beach, had a fabulous braii area, and even a pool (though it was too chilly to swim in it). Even though it is the middle of winter,  the day temperatures and the ocean water were both warm enough to enjoy, and because it's off season the beach and restaurants weren't busy at all.  Where we were the Ocean was pretty rough, there were a lot of waves and rocks especially at the beach outside our house. However,  walking distance from our house there was a spot along the beach with a large tide pool protected from the waves by larger rocks. This made for a perfect swimming spot, and when the tide was out we could go and climb along the rocks and look for sea life such a coral and urchins. 
 


The boys LOVED having Mandy and Chuck around to play with them! 
Sunrise from our deck

 











Mitchell asked to be buried in the sand... he couldn't stop giggling!
                                                   



Looking for sea life! 

Dad telling Mitchell about the different creatures and looking for crabs! 

Coral



We all agreed it was a great trip and have added it to our list of repeat vacations! 

Monday, July 14, 2014

The Tree of Life!

Shortly after moving here I decided to start looking for volunteer opportunities to help keep myself busy. I put a post out on the Child Life Council website to see if there were any needs for a Child Life Specialist here in Pretoria. My post connected me with an organization called OPSSA or Organization for Pediatric Support South Africa. Through OPSSA I have met many people who have a passion for Child Life and who hope to see it as a career here in South Africa. In June I was asked to present at a small seminar for health care professionals. I spoke on providing pre operative support, and also got to stay for the other presenters. One of the presenters, Megan is another American and former Child Life Specialist currently living in Jo-Burg.
Megan has spent the last several years living in Nigeria. As a missionary in Nigeria she worked with children in a photography program called Through Their Eyes and started doing photo workshops with the local children to give them a voice in their community. The pictures from the project were absolutely amazing. Having the children photograph their world was truly empowering for them, and helped others see how the children in their communities view what's happening around them. With her workshops she talked with the children about their roles in society and how their voices can make a difference. She then focused on parts of photography and the importance of point of focus when telling a story. The workshops helped bridge communication barriers between adults and children, and helped to show the children that they can be a part of change. The workshops had themes for the children to work with one for example being "I am Nigeria". The pictures the children took turned out amazing, and it's inspiring to see them tell their story through a camera. You can read about the Through Their Eyes photo project and see some of the pictures at www.throughtheireyesphotos.com
Over the last two weeks I have had the opportunity to help Megan with a special workshop here in Pretoria. Megan was asked to do a holiday workshop with children here that would then become part of the cities 'Feast of the Clowns' festival which is an annual celebration focusing at social justice issues. For Megan's workshop she combined a narrative therapy called The Tree of Life along with the photo workshop portion. The theme she was given to work with was "Un-Shackled" which goes along with the fact that this is the 20th Anniversary of the end of Apartheid.
The Tree of Life therapy has children look at their lives using the model of a tree. During the therapy children draw a tree with all it's standard parts. They discuss all the parts of the tree and then start paralleling it to parts of their lives. Starting at their 'roots' they discuss where they come from then move up the tree to discuss their skills and knowledge, their hopes and dreams, and the supportive people in their lives. Once the children have drawn their tree they then discuss how storms affect trees and what 'storms' they have in their lives. They then are able to start discussing how to protect their trees from these 'storms'.
I was able to help out with Megan's project on four different days. The first two days I was able to help with The Tree of Life portion of the workshop. We worked with 30 children ages 10-12. As expected some children took the project seriously and some did not. For those who did however, it was pretty impressive to see what they drew and expressed. I enjoyed talking with the children about their trees and the storms they face in their lives. To hear them talk about their storms with such casualty was at times unbelievable. These children discussed many hard issues such as bullies, violence, physical and sexual abuse, and parental neglect. I was proud of them for not being afraid to share their stories. It was also good to hear them talk about facing their storms and things they could do to overcome these issues.
On week two Megan started her photo workshop with the kids. They learned about using a camera, and importantly their points of focus. We talked about the theme of shackled vs unshackled and related it to their storms and the Tree of Life. They brainstormed ideas of what they could take pictures of to help tell their stories. They then were able to go out on the streets and start taking pictures. I didn't have the opportunity to walk with them out on the streets, but I helped a group of girls start to think about titles for their pictures they had already taken. Some of their pictures were really fabulous, and it was amazing to see their point of view and how it related to the over all theme.
The next step for Megan is to have their photos printed and then displayed for the festival. Some of these kids will be able to attend and it will be wonderful for them to see their work displayed for the whole city to see.  I can't wait to see the finished product!

Here are a few pictures of the workshop: 
Example of a Tree of Life Tree. This was an example Megan brought, I wish I had taken a picture of the children's work

Working hard on his tree

Working away on her tree

On the last day of the first week a tree was planted in the school yard  as a reminder of how strong our trees can be

Megan and some of the kids

practicing taking pictures and finding a point of focus

Photo Courtesy of Megan Ribbens
Out taking pictures

Photo Courtesy of Megan Ribbens

Photo Courtesy of Megan Ribbens

Photo Courtesy of Megan Ribbens
The Creche The program was held at

Photo Courtesy of Megan Ribbens

Megan has started brainstorming how to make these concepts work for children in the hospital setting, and I am excited to try it out! I love the concept of children using cameras to tell their stories. I think these two things combined would be empowering for children with chronic illness or long hospital stays.

Tuesday, July 8, 2014

A Trip to The Doctor

A few people have asked me what the medical care is like here in South Africa and if we have noticed any big differences. While for the most part our medical care is pretty much the same here there are a few differences I can share. For those with insurance or for those willing to pay out of pocket going to a doctor is easy and for the most part the same as it is in America. Not more then a few weeks here and Chase was the first person who needed to see a doctor. We chose a clinic in our neighborhood that was recommended by the other American expats in the area. The general practitioner Chase saw at his first appointment has now become our family doctor and has seen all of us for various reasons. Much like in America you call when you need an appointment and get in fairly easily.  We have really started to like our Doctor here, she is friendly, the kids like here, and always is sure to ask if we are still doing well with being so far from America. Doctors here don't hold back when it comes to writing prescriptions. When you leave the doctor it's not uncommon to leave with a script for four different things. For example, the last time I went to the doctor I got a script for penicillin, a pro biotic, a nose spray, and a pain reliever.  The last time Spencer was sick he had breathing treatments, a liquid steroid, an antibiotic,  a cough syrup, a pro biotic, and a pain reliever all prescribed. It felt odd loading him up on so many medications and we only used some of them as needed. Picking up prescriptions is a fairly easy process as well. The doctors can't call in your prescription to the pharmacy so I have to take the slip and wait in line, I've had to wait in line for 30 minutes before. It's kind of a pain with a two and five year old, and does make me miss the luxury of the drive through pharmacy.

I was also worried about finding a good Rheumatologist when moving here. I have been seeing the same doctor for the last 7 years and having a good Rheumatologist has been key to keeping my Lupus under control. I found a list of local Rheumatologist and picked a name on the list, hoping they would meet my needs. Thankfully, my doctor back home agreed to continue with my care over seas as long as I found someone here to be a contact and to write me prescriptions and lab orders as needed. My doctor here in Africa agreed to work with my needs and has been very accommodating and helpful in my care. I gave her a list of labs my doctor back home wanted and she has my lab results translated into English from Afrikaans and sent to me via email so that I can forward them to my doctor in the States. He quickly responds with his opinion and we continue from there. I go every couple months for lab work and have found our across the world communication to work out pretty well.  The blood lab here is just like any lab back home pretty simple, easy, and quick. I've been lucky to find a doctor here who is willing to be so flexible with their care.

When Spencer was put on all those medications we also had our first trip to a hospital here. One evening as Spencer was sleeping he was showing signs of breathing difficulty. He was experiencing a lot of heavy labored breathing and wheezing. So, after watching him for a few hours we decided to take him in to an Emergency room. I put a Facebook message out to some of the expat moms who have been here for a while to find out which hospital I should take him too. There are no children's specific hospitals here in Pretoria so I needed to know the next best thing. Several mom's suggested the same hospital so I went with that, and at 1:00 in the morning I loaded Spencer up in the car and headed off to a hospital I had never been to before. I was pleasantly, surprised when I arrived. We were quickly checked in and seen in no time by a doctor. Spencer had x-rays to rule out pneumonia and a breathing treatment then we were sent home. We were there less then two hours, it was fast and efficient.

The cost of medical care is different here as well. Our insurance isn't recognized at most of the hospitals and clinics here in Pretoria so to pay for medical care and prescriptions we pay out of pocket and then submit a claim to our insurance company. Before I submit the claim a doctors appointment will cost me anywhere from 30 to 60 US dollars and Spencer's trip to the Emergency room including his X-rays only cost me about $70.00. My prescription's each month are about 5 to 10 dollars. So as you can see medical care in general is less expensive, and really not any less quality.  My monthly prescriptions are the exact same and less then half the cost of what I pay after insurance back home.

Now, if you can't afford to go to the these clinic or a private hospital. You are given government funded medical aid and there are government run facilities you can go to when sick. I haven't been to a government hospital here, but from what I have been told there is a huge difference in care, cleanliness, and what resources/ tools they have available to use with patients. Elizabeth (our housekeeper) said that she avoids going to the hospital as much as possible and often there are sick people laying on beds in the middle of the halls. She did however have both her children in the government hospital and her youngest was born as a premie at 26 weeks, kept in a warmer in the hospital for 2 months, and has no lasting affects from being born early. I was pretty surprised after what I had heard about these hospitals. They must have some good resources to be able to provide for such a young infant.

There are times we miss our doctors back home and our big fancy Children's Hospital, but for the most part I really can't complain about the medical care we have received. It's been one less things to worry about while here.

Tuesday, June 17, 2014

Cape Town Part Two: Wine and Penguins

The day after table mountain Chase and I took a little trip to Stellenbausch the wine country of South Africa. I've always wanted to take a trip to California wine country and have been talking about it for years with several of our friends. So, naturally when we moved to SA I replaced my California dream with Stellenbausch. Thankfully, having Elizabeth with us we were able to make that dream happen in a more romantic way for just Chase and I. I am sure it was also more fun for the children playing with her at the house versus being toted to a couple different wineries. On the suggestion of my golf instructor we made our first stop Ernie Els Wines.  The winery was breathtaking the mountains and rows of grape vines were picturesque. Being there at the end of May all the grapes had been harvested and the leaves were turning colors, it made for a wonderful fall day.  It was interesting learn about the wines, the various flavors, and how they are made. We chose to do their red wine tasting and were able to enjoy each wine with a light lunch. Following lunch we had a little tour of their barrel room, it was pretty impressive. As we were leaving we purchased a special bottle to bring back with us. The gentleman informed us it would be best in about 2 years, so apparently we have something to look forward to before we move back to the States. Our second stop was just across the road from Ernie Els at Hidden Valley Winery. We came across Hidden Valley wine at a dinner one night with some friends and it worked out perfectly that it was close to Ernie Els. At Hidden Valley we chose to do the Chocolate and Wine pairing. They brought out a block of chocolates and then brought out a new wine to taste with each one.  Apparently, most couples share their chocolates, but as soon as they were brought out I was sure I wanted each one to myself! So I ordered a second board!   We didn't want to be away from the boys for too long so after the two wineries we headed home. Out of the two, Ernie Els was my favorite, the views from the winery itself were amazing.


Window out of the Barrel Room, What a View!


Barrel Room


 Ernie Els Winery

They have a large green area... no hole just a flag pole. I thought it was kind of funny


Hidden Valley Winery

Hidden Valley has several nature trails that you can take around their grounds.  You can pre order picnic baskets to take with you on your nature walk. If I had known we for sure would have done that! 


On Day three of our trip we headed off to Simon's Town to see the penguins at Boulder Beach. Boulder Beach is home to a unique colony of African Penguins. Boulder Beach itself is relatively small in size but is home to about 1,000 of these birds. This number of course use to be much larger but over time and with man building around their home the numbers have shrunk. In the summer time you can swim off the beach and around the boulders. We were there in the middle of their nesting period and got to see lots of baby penguins keeping warm under their mothers. There is a board walk that leads around the beach to another viewing area where you can watch the birds. We had so much fun watching them swim, and waddle around on the sand. They are just too cute!


Elizabeth and the Boys 

Baby Penguin






More Baby Penguins



In the afternoon following our penguin viewing we intended on heading down to the Cape of Good Hope, but the weather wasn't cooperating and we decided we needed to do something more fun for the kids. So, instead we went off to the Two Oceans Aquarium were we got to view some marine life and enjoy watching a shark feeding. The boys love aquariums, and it was nice to get out of the chilly air for a bit! We ended the day with another dinner with Carolyn and Cara, said our Goodbyes, and called it good for Cape Town.










Cape Town is a lot different then Pretoria. Chase and I compared it a lot to San Francisco and California in general. The people there were friendly and laid back and there were a lot more foreigners there too. The University of Cape Town brings in a lot of international students, and Cape Town is a huge tourist destination, we definitely noticed a lot more American accents around us as we were out and about.  I am not sure if we will have another opportunity to get down to Cape Town, but I feel like there is still so much there to see and we just did a small small portion of it all. Hopefully we can go back, maybe when the weather is nicer and we could enjoy the beach a bit more. If not, I am happy we got to see what we did and experience another little chunk of South Africa.